John Clark sharing a very personal experience. By now you have seen the stories regarding the leaked documents from the supreme court regarding Roe VS Wade and the sense that the justices are leaning heavily toward abolishing that landmark decision. Make no mistake, this affects men as well as women.
In the early 1970s, I was in a contentious and dysfunctional relationship with a young woman who was attending a Maine college. It was one of those that should never have come about, but weren’t many of us stubborn and afflicted with poor judgment in our early twenties?
She was on the pill, so the thought of pregnancy wasn’t something I worried about. I should have. She decided the pill was making her fat and stopped taking them, but didn’t tell me. The next thing I knew, two people who were completely unprepared to become parents, were facing that reality. Legal abortion was only available in New York at that time. We agreed that despite the distance, cost, and possible traumatic effects, that was our choice.
I remember answering an ad in The Maine Times and scheduling the appointment. To say the drive down was tension-filled would be an understatement. I wasn’t allowed to wait at the clinic, so I wandered around NYC and have a vague memory of eating lunch at a Chinese restaurant. After returning to the clinic and paying while she was being discharged, we drove back to Maine with very few words being spoken.
The relationship ended shortly thereafter. However, the emotional part of the experience and the associated memories remain to this day. Would I want to go through it again? No, and I’m grateful I never had to make such a choice again, but I do not want that choice stolen from others in similar, or more dire situations. That seems to be on the horizon.
My point in sharing this experience is this: Ask yourself whether you want others to have a choice? Are the people running for office that you’ll be voting for respect the right of women to choose what happens to their bodies, or are they so full of self-righteousness they’re incapable of respecting others’ needs for personal freedom? If this right is abolished, what one will be targeted next?