Best writing tip I have ever gotten?
Jule Selbo
Her words still haunt me – and I use them almost every writing day.
Where did the best writing tip I have ever gotten come from?
Back up twenty or so years. When I was working in Los Angeles as a screenwriter. I had a great friend in my book club. I admired her because she seemed to read three books a week, see every studio and independent movie that came out, raise her daughters to have a passion for art and literature, she was tall and blond and had married a short, funny guy – and she loved writing. I admired her because I found her to be warm, smart and a no-bull-shitter.
And she gave me this advice and although she’s moved to Australia and we don’t even correspond anymore – I’ll never forget her.
I was working for the networks and studios as a screenwriter and had been doing projects on assignment (meaning I had a lot of executives with their fingers in the idea/execution of the script I was getting paid to write and I, by contract, had to seriously consider their notes and thus I often felt I was writing to make someone else happy) and I was desperate to find out what was in my head. I wanted to write a story that belonged to me – with “no interference”.
So I gave myself a few months “off” to do that. Basically to write what is called a “spec” screenplay. One that you are not getting paid to write and that, after its completion, you hope to take into the market as an example of “your own voice”.
Not to say that the screenwriting assignment jobs weren’t fun (for the most part I had a blast) and I was very happy to have them – (pay the mortgage, send the kid to school, put gas in the car and all that) but we writers – the reasons we put pen to paper or fingertips to our computer keys are often deeper than ‘it’s a job’.

Joan Didion if often quoted as saying: “I write to find out what I am thinking.” I looked up her quote and the Huffington Post actually noted that she went on a bit longer: “I write entirely to find out what I’m thinking, what I’m looking at, what I want, what I fear, what I see and what it means to me.”
So I set out to do that. I wrote the spec screenplay (it was a Western that explored personal justice and dreams of early settlers). I had a great time, creating characters with ideas and actions, conflicts and dreams and struggles to find their place in a new America.
After I completed a pretty good first draft (100 pages, screenplay format), I asked my tall, blond, no-bull-shitter friend to read it. Overall, her response to the script was positive and she had a lot of thumbs-up on the pages. But there were two pivotal scenes that she circled in red pen and wrote in the margins:
“YOU CAN DO BETTER HERE.”
Her note threw me for a loop at first. I stared at the screenplay pages and remembered how hard I worked to find the right words and actions to make the scenes come to life. And if she thought something needed changing, couldn’t she be more specific? What exactly did she think needed changing? Plot? Character? Action? This comment was way too general!
After I settled down from the irritation, I looked more closely at the scenes.
Hmmm.
And I realized what my friend had given to me was really amazing advice. Because she was telling me that she had confidence in me and that I should have confidence in myself that I could make these two pivotal scenes “better”. That I had the capability, the skills, the determination and discipline to do BETTER.
The first word started to get to me: You. Not “it”.
And “better” in my own way. Think about it, it’s your story. Your characters. Your themes.
I’ll never forget those words she wrote in thick red felt pen. So simple. But her confidence fed my confidence and it worked for me. When I hit a bump and I’m searching for the right word or sentence or plot point and come up with one that is almost okay, I circle it and write next to it in large letters:
Jule – you can do better.
Sometimes it reads: Hey dingbat, you can do better.
Or: YCDB
Or: Fix later – ‘cause you can do better.
Or: You lazy sack of doubt, just remember, you can do better.
Maybe not in that exact moment at the computer, maybe not a hour later when frustration or exhaustion or hunger or laziness or aggravation at the world is sitting on my shoulder. But LATER, when I am in a space to be nicer to myself and ENJOY digging deeper into that plot point or sentence or paragraph or idea…
You can do it.
I have the confidence that I can do it.
And when I do go back and work it again, it usually—at least in my opinion—it does get better.
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**Joan Didion: Year of Magical Thinking, Play it As It Lays, Notes to John and more: novelist and journalist.
You could say I’ve been at this game a long time. My first publication credits were in teen magazines in the late 1960s. My first traditionally published book was released in 2014. Since that time, I’ve published two additional books. One traditionally, one independently. Can you understand why, when I sit down to write, my brain screams AMATEUR.
In a ‘just the facts, Ma’am’ synopsis, here’s the deal. I’m a SLOOOOOOW writer. Except I’m not. That full-time job I mentioned above was in the legal biz. Part of my role entailed writing pleadings, deeply researched documents intended to persuade a judge or mediator to see things from our client’s point of view, often written on a twenty-four-hour deadline. It was intense, and it had to be fast, detailed, and defensible. Twenty-page documents flowed effortlessly from my fingers in the space of four hours. If my attorney was driving, I often had the outline banged out before we returned from court.
My idea of writing a novel comprised of throwing my ideas into the air and watching where they landed. Then I’d write from one to the other until the story emerged. That’s a lot of work when you’re writing crime fiction. It’s like managing the reins for a ten-horse team. The writer needs to be in control, but flexible enough to avoid a crash and still arrive at the destination. Then comes the editing. A necessary step in every novel, but an essential one for a discovery writer to move from the first to the second draft.
The last book I wrote took two years to write and is currently undergoing edits at the request of a potential publisher. That’s a long time. While the book was on submission, characters from an existing series clamored for new words of their own. Another idea, another plot, another three years. Scary thought. Then my husband bought me a book by K. Stanley and L. Cooke titled Secrets to Outlining a Novel. In his defense, he was tired of hearing me complain. The book reinforced my work-life experience. Outlining matters, but it’s not about the minutiae at this stage. It’s about the main events. The what, not the how. The how comes in the creative process.
Anyway, things have changed. Digitizing source material made it easier to access. More people, men as well as women, took an interest in the distaff side of history. There was no way I could keep up with every new tidbit of information about the women who had entries in my Who’s Who.




I close the WIP, pull up my friend Gracie, and let her go have an adventure. Grace Christian is a somewhat wayward US Marshal who first appeared several years ago in a story published by Level Best Books called “Gracie Walks the Plank.”Gracie has voice and Gracie has attitude. She’s a true badass and it’s fun to see what she’ll think and say. After “Gracie Walks the Plank,” I wrote a second Gracie story about a battered wife and jewel heist called “All that Glitters.” Then, just for fun, because she’s a vacation from my other characters, I wrote “A Hole Near Her Heart,” and then Entitlements.” In a recent bout of playing hooky from quotas, I wrote “Black Widower.” I am gradually turning all the stories, plus more, into an entire Gracie novel.
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